Senior Scholar- Athletes: Is Graduation Goodbye to the Sport that Helps Define You?

As my final high school softball season approaches, it’s bittersweet. Unsure if college softball is in my future, these feelings are something I am sure many high school athletes feel. 

It may be that high school athletes are burnt out and need a break after senior year or they aren’t interested in being recruited. Whatever the reason, varsity high school athletes spend roughly 10-12 hours per week on practices and games alone. Not including the other outside training or club teams they participate with year round. 

After dedicating so much time and energy to a sport, how do you make the best of the feelings you experience in your last season?

Personally I am struggling with the thought of parting ways with something that has been such a significant part of my life. The routine provides a sense of comfort that I will miss dearly. On the other hand, I look forward to discovering who I can be without softball. It is okay to try new things and feel both emotions. After all, I am sure many high school athletes out there can relate to making peace with their decision to continue or not continue their sport in college.

No matter your decision, those endless hours of training are not a waste. If I choose not to play in college, I struggle with the idea that my precious time “was all for nothing”. However, I am constantly reminded that this was not “for nothing”. 

Each athlete has a different story, and within their stories, each has learned something valuable from their experiences within sports. Many have learned little lessons in their encounters with various challenges. It takes a special person to be a sponge and apply quick thoughtful advice to the bigger picture. Mistakes that teach you to learn from your mistakes. Little lessons such as learning discipline, learning commitment, learning how to handle fear and failure. 

A good athletic environment provides support and a sense of belonging. You have a community on speed dial. Right off the bat, you have something in common, almost making a friendship easier. I have connected with some special people through softball from friends I still keep in touch with to proudly commenting “Congrats” as a former teammate announces her college commitment. 

On the flipside, little lessons can be found in a negative athletic environment. For example, learning to advocate for yourself when you don’t feel like you are receiving the playing time you deserve. Or simply knowing what to look for in future teams, what dynamic or coaching style works best for you. Additionally, a negative experience can teach you to treat your teammates with kindness, ultimately leading you to become a better person.